I'm sure all new mothers go through this...that eye opening experience that life has changed. Now I'm not just talking about life in general...it's obvious that life is going to change once a baby enters your world, I'm talking about the less obvious life lessons you learn one you become a mom...the ones no one really talks about.
1. You learn who your "REAL" friends are...
Since having a baby, I apparently am not as much fun anymore....at least not in my friend's eyes...or that's how I see it, because it feels like everyone has dropped off the face of the Earth since giving birth. The majority of my friends don't have children and probably won't for a while, so I get that having a baby around isn't always what they want. A couple of weeks ago DH gave me the "you should call your friends" speech and to be honest...maybe I should...BUT I got tired of having to always be the one to initiate conversation and then having it die out quickly. Friends that I thought would be around more aren't and others have surprised me and have made the effort to stick around. It is kind of sad, but I have made so many new friends since giving birth that it doesn't really bother me!
2. There is NOT enough time in a day...
Some days seem to stretch on forever and other days you feel like you blink and it is over. This week especially I just feel like I do not have enough time to get everything I need to get done done! I wake up, give Cole breakfast, change his diaper and get him dressed, walk the dog, get myself some breakfast and then the day really gets started...chores need to be done! time to vacuum, sweep, mop and do the laundry! when that's done it's time to tidy up the toys and put Cole down for a nap. While he is sleeping I prep his baby food for the freezer and tidy up a bit more, sometimes try to sneak in a nap of my own depending on how much sleep I got the night before. Then we run and do our errands...our groceries, Wal-Mart trips and other adventures and then it's pretty much time for Daddy to return for work and for dinner to get started or for me to head out to bootcamp. Don't get me wrong, I wouldn't trade it for the world...sometimes I just wish the day was longer or I was faster lol
3. I didn't think it was possible...but I love my husband MORE...
Everytime I watch hubby interact with Cole in any way...I love him more. I love watching him play with Cole, feed him, make him laugh or go for his "Daddy Walk". I go to bootcamp three times a week, it is my bit of time away, and Mike takes Cole while I go and they have a blast every single time! Sometimes I come home and Cole doesn't want anything to do with me. I love that they have a great relationship already and like the bolded sentence said....I didn't think it was possible but it makes me love him even more.
4. A baby's smile or laugh can make your whole day better....
I can be having the worst day or be at my wits end with something and then Cole smiles or laughs and the world seems right again. There is no better sound than the sound of a baby laughing and baby smiles are just so genuine that you can't help but smile back.
There are a lot more lessons I have learned since becoming a mom...some of them big and some of them small. This list is just a start of what I'm sure will be a LONG list :)
I am in the same boat in the friend department. Some of my best friends were mommies before me and even they have disappeared. Then there are my single and non-parent friends who I hear from every month if that. It's sad, and it's hard but right now my daughter is my best friend and that's okay by me. I know that will have to change as she gets older. I can't be her mom and her friend for disciplines sake. But for now, she and my husband are all I need. :)
ReplyDeleteI totally agree with all of those!
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